This time in a child’s life they are going through a lot of changes physically–much like babies– and this means that for kids on the younger side of toddlerhood they are still learning new skills such as balance, coordination, and basic language. Along with this they are likely to struggle with frustration yet also seem to bring that frustration on themselves when they see they aren’t capable of what they want to do all by themselves.
Children at this age are really wanting to use their new found language skills but can certainly lack the tact and wisdom necessary to do so in a way that is kind and respectful to others. And while peace can be practiced, it is not uncommon for toddlers to sound quite rude and demanding when they’re trying to communicate, especially when there is a task at hand.
A toddler’s attitude toward people during these years really takes quite a few turns. You may notice one day that your three year old is excited to share with others and enjoys saying “yes!” to new ideas, and then notice over a few weeks or months that the same child develops intense disequilibrium and insecurity for a season. There is SO much going on developmentally in their brains that it often demonstrates itself in a lack of coordination or intense, unpredictable emotional meltdowns. They may seek tensional outlets that are really hard to work through for both child and parents alike. However, these bouts of big feelings are part of the larger picture of their social and emotional growth. You can look forward to really witnessing how their brains are working (since they’re able to verbalize their thoughts and feelings), and embrace their emerging, unique personalities. It’s a season of ups and downs, and having realistic expectations for toddlers can make a significant difference in your ability to appreciate them for the special little people that they are.
NURTURING BRAIN DEVELOPMENT
At this age is it really important to focus less on what they are doing that is challenging your patience and more on identifying the skills that they need to more successfully navigate conflicts and challenges. This may look like:
Being really intentional to name emotions on a broader scale than happy or sad
Educating yourself on impulse control and how/when it develops
Using play to help begin making the connections in their brain that will be necessary as impulse control begins to develop
Offer do-overs
Use books and story-telling as teaching methods
Hold on to your calm
Learn how to manage your own triggers and model that in a genuine way
Practice your own responses to behaviors that continuously trigger you so that you can be prepared
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